New research reveals Cardiff as the most sexually open city

• Having sex outside tops the UK’s list of sexual fantasies (21%), closely followed by mutual oral sex (69ing) (20%) and taking part in a threesome (18%)
• A third of Brits won’t talk to their partner about their sexual fantasies
• Three in 10 (30%) Brits have NEVER tried to recreate a sexual fantasy in the bedroom
• People in a relationship are most sexually adventurous with 80% trying at least one sexual fantasy together

The sexual wellness experts at Sinful have taken a deep dive into the sexual desires of the UK public, with sex outside, mutual oral sex (sometimes referred to as 69ing) and taking part in a threesome topping the list.

The survey also found that seven in ten people (70%) have carried out at least one sexual desire in real life, the most popular being sex outdoors, with nearly one-in-four people (24%) having had a little al-fresco fumble.

UK’s Top Ten Sexual Fantasies

The most popular sexual fantasies across the UK are:

Sex outside	21%
Mutual oral sex (69ing)	20%
Having a threesome	18%
Lingerie	17%
Using sex toys with a partner	17%
Sex with a stranger	16%
Role Play	14%
Sensual massage	12%
Spanking	10%
Light BDSM (blindfolds, hand ties)	10%

There was also a large difference of sexual preference between genders.

Women’s top five sexual desires:

Sex outside	17%
Using sex toys with a partner	17%
Lingerie	16%
Using sex toys solo	12%
Sex with a stranger	12%
Role Play	12%

Men’s top five sexual desires:

Mutual oral sex (69ing)	24%
Having a threesome	24%
Sex outside	23%
Sex with a stranger	21%
Lingerie	18%

The most sexually open city was revealed to be Cardiff, with 85% of people trying at least one sexual fantasy, closely followed by Birmingham with 83% and Liverpool with 78%. More reserved cities on the list were London, with 34% of people never trying out a sexual fantasy in real life, followed by Brighton (32%) and Edinburgh (31%).     

People in a relationship are the most sexually adventurous, with 80% of couples having tried at least one of their sexual fantasies. Those who identify as single are not far behind but are not as sexually adventurous as the those in a relationship (70% of single people have tried at least one sexual fantasy).

How many Brits talk about their sexual fantasies?

With 70% of all Brits having at least one sexual fantasy, it’s a shame that nearly 1-in-3 don’t feel comfortable opening up about them to their sexual partner.

Ditte Jensen, Sexual Wellness Expert at Sinful, comments on opening up about your fantasies:

“Fear of rejection and embarrassment can often be the reason a lot of us stay silent about our deepest sexual desires.

“Being vulnerable in front of your partner can be an uncomfortable feeling, especially if you haven’t spoken about sex much before. However, honest and open communication can allow you to access avenues in your sex life that you may never have considered open before.

“A more intimate approach to discussing sexual fantasies and needs can improve both your sex life and your relationship overall, so we encourage you to open up to your partner about anything new you’d like to try!

For more information about the research and future tips on how to communicate with your sexual partner, please visit the Sinful blog;  https://blog.sinful.co.uk/inspiration/the-uks-top-sexual-fantasies-revealed