Time2Talk reply Mammy's Girl

Dear Time2Talk

My mother doesn’t let me out to spend time with my friends, as she doesn’t trust me.

She thinks I might have a boyfriend, but I don’t.

She has never really let me out, only now and then. My friends make fun of me and call me a mammy’s girl because I’m always in the house and never allowed out.

I don’t drink, smoke or take drugs and did well in school and feel trapped.

It’s even worse in the summer when see younger kids out playing and I’m in the house watching them through the window!

I’m 16 now and I’ve had enough of this.

What can I do? What can I say to her without hurting her feeling?

Mammy’s Girl

Dear Mammy’s Girl,

It seems to me that your mother could be a little over protective. She is probably very worried over your safety when you are not with her. However, for you to develop into a responsible adult, she will need to let you have some freedom.

Try and sit down with her and explain calmly how you feel about her not letting you out. Explain that you feel you’re missing out on fun with your friends, and that you think you are being held back from developing into an adult.

If she still says no, then ask her to explain why, ask her to explain the reasons.

Be mature and try to meet her half way by compromising. Tell her you will keep in regular contact via your mobile and that you will be back at a reasonable time. You could also offer to give her your friends’ mobile numbers too.

Maybe you could ask some of your friends to come over to your home? Your mother can meet your friends and this may make her feel happier, when she sees that your friends are sensible and responsible too.

Remember to stay calm when you talk to her and try compromising.

Good luck!

Gemma