Time2Talk reply 'Over too quickly'

Dear Time2Talk

I’ve just got into a relationship with a new man and it’s all going really good and all.

However, there are problems in the bedroom department.

He is too fast and it’s all over too quickly.

Have you got any suggestions on how to explain to him to calm down and take it slow without hurting his feelings?

Thank you Page x

Dear Page,

It sounds like your relationship is fairly new; this could be the reason why ‘it’s all over too quickly’, you may need to give him time. It can take a while for individuals to feel relaxed and a period of time before you both find out what you like to do sexually.

Part of being in a healthy relationship is that you both gain pleasure out of the sexual activity. If it’s upsetting you then you should really be discussing this with your partner. As it’s a new relationship I can understand that you maybe quite worried about approaching this subject with him. Timing will need to be right because you don’t want to embarrass him. I would say that it needs to be brought up in a place where he is most comfortable e.g. in his home, and where no-one else is around. Listen to what he has to say, maybe he can’t help it. If this is the case, then it maybe a good idea to suggest that he reads hints and tips in men’s health magazines and/or the internet. This is a good method to increase knowledge on quite a private topic.

Or you could wait a while and it may improve in time. If not, then speaking to him when you have known each other longer maybe a better option.

Best of luck, and enjoy the positive elements of your relationship.

Gemma