Time2Talk reply Stressed Member

Dear Time2Talk

I don’t know where to start as I find it really embarrassing. I seem to be suffering problems having sex with my wife.

You could say that I’m suffering from impotence but I haven’t been to the doctors at all. I just find it really embarrassing to talk about it.

My wife is brilliant and very understanding but I know she misses the physical side of our relationship. I do to, but I just can’t do it. We are very intimate but I can tell it’s not enough for her and see her getting frustrated. Though she hides it well.

I’ve read that stress, work, alcohol and many other things can affect it, but the only thing that seems to be stressing me at the moment is that I can’t make my wife truly happy.

It’s got so bad that I’ve been thinking of perhaps allowing her to get satisfaction from other men. From what I can gather on the internet, this lifestyle seem more common these days and I thought that as I love my wife so much, that I’d let her go with other men.

Please help, as I’d like our lives to get back to normal.

Thanks

Stressed Member

Dear Stressed Member

You are not alone in this area of need. Please don’t feel embarrassed about this, as I’m sure GP’s hear a lot about this problem.

The list you mentioned are contributing factors. However, it could be something else that’s causing your potential impotence.

I’m not a GP, so I would recommend that you make an appointment to see your GP as soon as you can. Remember that everything you say to your GP is confidential and he/she is there to help you.

It’s very reassuring for you that your wife understands your problem. Although sex is a big part of a relationship, it’s not the be all and end all.

Take the pressure off and enjoy the other things that are wonderful about your relationship. The fact that you are still intimate with each other is a good thing too. Don’t focus on what you can’t do in the bedroom, focus on what you can do.

Relax and enjoy pleasing each other in a sensual way!

With regards to your suggestion regarding your wife going with other men for sexual activity, this is definitely not the answer and so therefore would not recommend this, and in fact could cause more problems to your relationship.

Make an appointment today, it could be the start of getting your sex life back on track.

Regards

Gemma