Time2Talk reply Frustrated 1

Dear Time2Talk

What can I do? I’m torn apart at the moment!

My wife is pregnant and obviously our sex life has dwindled. In fact it’s dwindled to nothing at all. I find this really frustrating but was managing to cope.

However, a female work colleague who I get on brilliantly with is flirting with me all the time. It’s been quite a few months since I had sex and she’s driving me crazy with all the suggestive remarks and her actions. I know I’ve probably been doing the same but if I wasn’t married, I’d go out with her.

Worst thing of all is that we’re due to go away on to an event which means we’ll be staying in a hotel overnight. I love my wife and tried talking to her about sexual relations but she’s just not interested.

I don’t think I’ll be able to resist having an affair!

What can I do?

Thanks

Frustrated 1

Dear Frustrated 1,

Having an affair is committing adultery. When you chose to get Married you also agreed to take vows. Vows which are to be taken seriously and as a commitment to each other.

Your wife is carrying your child, and being pregnant isn’t easy. Its not just about the physical strain on her body, it’s also about her hormones and feelings towards her body also.

Maybe your wife doesn’t feel attractive and has no confidence at the moment, and is self conscious about you seeing her naked.

I know you’ve tried speaking to her about your sexual relations, but try again. Have a conversation about how you feel, and hopefully she can explain how she is feeling too.

Having an affair isn’t an option. If you truly loved your wife then you wouldn’t do it. Think carefully about what you would lose. Most people deeply regret having an affair and very often it’s just too late.

You can’t help your thoughts, but you can control your actions.

Be patient about this short term situation, and look forward to a beautiful bundle of joy coming to you both very soon 🙂

Gemma