‘And Just Like That’ is BACK tomorrow- experts comment on Aidan Shaw comeback

In the season two trailer, Carrie is having harmless, casual sex again following the death of her husband, Mr. Big, in season one.

Whilst it all seems to be going well until her ex-fiancé Aidan arrives back on her doorstep.

As we prepare to watch an old flame of Carrie’s potentially unfold, the team at JeffBet have teamed up with a dating and relationship expert, Jen Kaarlo, on the concept of reigniting a former romance, and some top tips for those considering it.  

Jen Kaarlo says,  

“First, it was Bennifer… now Carrie and Aidan are having another go on the relationship merry-go-round. But I couldn’t help but wonder if reconnecting with an ex is a good idea? In my own experience, I have mixed reviews.  

“Maybe it was post-pandemic “summer of love” vibes, boredom, or mere curiosity but a busload of my exes dating back as far as 25 years have reached out over the last 18 months. Many were ignored, a few of my previous suitors and I engaged in light-hearted catch ups, and two stood out as people I would explore dating again.  

“I think it can be all too easy to say leave in the past what is in the past, especially because people can be capable of changing and evolving in very meaningful ways, but to do this typically takes two things: time and growth (usually through therapy or big life changes, such as giving up addictions, sickness, career changes).” 

The team at JeffBet reveal their thoughts on the comeback of Aidan Shaw. 

“We first met Aidan Shaw in Season 3 of Sex and the City, a handsome, dog-owning, furniture maker who can do no wrong. 

“However, being the opposite to Carrie’s most recent husband, Mr. Big, it seems none of Carrie’s ex boyfriends can compare. In fact, in the past Aidan had been called one of TV’s disliked “nice guys.” 

“However, as soon as fans found out Carrie and Aidan are set to reignite their romance, plenty of outrage arose to social media, highlighting they didn’t want the duo back together. 

“Carrie’s infidelity to Aidan has been brought up by fans, claiming she will ‘ruin’ her ex-lover’s life, and that she is not deserving the furniture designer. 

“Aidan generally handled the end of their relationship with dignity and compassion for Carrie. 

“Depending on how ‘And Just Like That’ season 2 crafts his storyline, fans opinions could be subject to change. Whilst we don’t have a confirmation of how Aidan will carry himself, we hope no one gets hurt!” 

Below, Jen Kaarlo shares her advice for anyone considering getting back with an ex. 

“If you’re considering igniting the heat with a former flame, here are a few things you may want to think about before jumping back into familiar territory.  

“There can be something alluring about exploring things with an ex… they already know your likes and dislikes and there can be an intermediate comfort that may take longer to build with a new partner.  

“But that being said, an ex may have assumptions about who you were back in the day and those may not align with your values and interests for where you are now. Besides, how wonderful is it starting off on a fresh slate with someone new? “ 

Below, Jen shares some emotions you may experience, and how to deal with them: 

Are you lonely and nostalgic or really miss being with this person? 

It’s wise to ask yourself this question whether you’re the one reaching out to the ex, or if they’ve been in touch with you. Since none of us are mind readers we don’t have the power of knowing how the other person may be feeling or going through and there can sometimes be more implications by reaching out to an ex than chatting to a sexy stranger at the bar.  

It may be best to leave the ex in the distance (at least for the time being) and only explore being in contact if it’s stemming from a genuine desire to reconnect in a meaningful way.

If early conversations with your ex are enjoyable and you’re finding joy in reconnecting, it can be worthwhile to get to know someone all over again! There may be one history book or a whole library filled with the past experiences with your ex but think more about how you may want the current book to read. 

It’s helpful to keep an eye and ear out for any negative behaviour and patterns that are reminiscent of past situations and detaching yourself when moments become triggering.  

And, for those exes that are bonding with you in a more positive, thoughtful and engaging way, explore giving the benefit of the doubt for where you both are at in the present moment versus digging up what may have happened in the past.